i think, if you look at the other questions in this and other forums, you have to conclude a lot of people can help at codingforums.
I helps if you put the question in an appropriate forum, fe this one is for serverside thingies. i don't think flash has to do with server side stuff. (or i don't understand your question exactly).
Perhaps if you be more specific of what you have, and what you want, it is easier for us to answer your question.
I know something about active x, but the active x control link you mention is unknown to me.