i got it, that was the last item on the list for this deal and thanks for all your help.
The fix was so obvious and right there in front of me but i was so tired and stressed over this that i just didnt see it. Remember that i said i may have to open another window for the lightbox. In the back of my mind i kept thinking there has to be a way im not the first one to have this issue.
I just kept thinking two things, they must be on a page first, and you have to click them, before it will work. And then it hit me like a ton of bricks man, i about fell out of my chair, and i remember i had seen it before on other sites but just didnt pay attention.
I just listed the images 30x30 in a row under the main image side by side, they are large enough to make out the image somewhat and small enough to put 8 of them under there before making another row.
Now i have them listed on the page using that array we made and now i can use lightbox, you click on one and then you can click next and prev images. I honestly have seen this setup so many times but it just never hit me till now after much needed sleep and after stressing all weekend over this.
Also doing it this way i did not have to use it wrapped in a function so much better.
Thanks sooooooooooooooo much for your help, really appreciate it..