Ok so in short I want to be able to style the bullet a color without styling the text of the list item that color as well.
Also- it cannot use a list-style-image (because it does not look good when the user changes his browser's text size) and it cannot simply style the list item a color then use a span surrounding the text to over-ride the color of the list item with the span's color (because it will be placed on a forum with multiple color schemes - the text color should match the color as specified in the color scheme, not a set color that will look bad on some color schemes).
I'm not entirely sure that it is possible :-s I was going to suggest list-style-image, but if you don't want to use that. I'm not aware of a way to change the colour of a list style...