Ummm.... What in the world does SQL Server Management Studio have to do with "I do have xampp with apache and mysql running"???
You can't use SQL Server *anything* to talk to a MySQL database. (Well, not literally true, but it's much more complex than you even want to think about, surely.)
If you really want to talk to MySQL, you should use MySQLWorkbench or PhpMyAdmin or PhpMySQLAdmin.
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