Assuming I understand your question correctly ...
The mailto: protocol will trigger whatever the users default email application is, since yours is hotmail that's what happens, however i use something different so I will get different results.
I dont believe the flash is involved in this one.
Given you have the proper host support, you can use a server side application to send the email for you, that could solve your problem
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