accessing remote dB

[Alev]

i want to inser data into a remote dB.
I cant for the life of me get it to connect. The mysql_connect syntax is straightforward. Ive tried the ip number and domain name, the user name and pass are correct. No firewall probs.
Always an error lilke this:
"Can't connect to MySQL server on '130.220.33.14' (10054)"

I use phpdev to run the files at home. Is there maybe a config I have to change on it to access remotely?

Thanks.

[Tangerine Dream]

Always an error lilke this:
"Can't connect to MySQL server on '130.220.33.14' (10054)"
Hi, are you able to connect to remote MySQL server with the same username and password using mysql or other SQL query tool?